How We Met

Intriguing how people meet
their life partners and choose
to marry. Luck and chance are
sometimes involved. Or fate?

Some choose to marry high school
sweethearts. Not in the cards for me.
I was in graduate school and teaching
at a university where my husband was

also a grad student. We had seen one
another from afar, mainly at soccer
matches. Then socially at a party where
many students were. We struck up a

conversation and had numerous ones
over the ten years of our courtship.
Graduate school and research
are sometimes long and involved.

Ours became a long-distance relationship
when my husband moved to a different
state to pursue grad work. I continued
my grad work. We managed many

trips and flights back and forth over
the years. Then his job after finishing
brought him to Upstate New York. We
continued our conversations. We married

in Virginia. Fate and choices intertwined
to weave our lives together. From our
vantage point, the views were spectacular.
Now older and wiser, we were more patient.

Being in the right place at the right time
worked for us. We shared similar values and
a faith. Time teaches us perspective. We
have had joys, sorrows, mistakes and magical

moments. The events of our lives shaped
us into who we are today. Neither of us
resembles our twenty-something selves,
but we have shaped each other’s values,

attitudes and tastes. Had we not met in
that place and time in grad school, our lives
certainly would have been different. Our
most important influence has been family.

Family stories are told of how people met.
My own parents met when both of them
were students in Boston. Had they not
attended the dance, they might never

have met even though both were from
towns in Massachusetts just a few miles
apart. Our habits and happiness have
a continuous kind of enchanting poetry.

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30 Responses to How We Met

  1. Arno Bode, Cologne,Germany says:

    Liebe Mary Ann,
    beeindruckend ,wie Du deinen geliebten Ehemann Deine Liebe zum Ausdruck bringst.Wir wünschen Euch für euere Zukunft alles Liebe und Gute und alles Glück dieser Erde.Mit ganz herzlichen Grüßen aus Cologne, euere lilly und euer Arno

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  2. Peter Klopp says:

    This is a wonderful story about your life-long relationship with your husband, Mary Ann. I see quite a few parallels to the love story of my own courtship and marriage to my dear wife Biene: the ‘chance’ encounter, the long wait until you took the plunge, your conviction that you two were meant for each other, the mutual respect and love you showed to each other, and the blessing of a wonderful family. Congratulations and best wishes! Peter

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    • Peter – thank you from the bottom of my heart for such a lovely comment. There are many parallels to our love stories, our poetry. These chance encounters lead to a mutually shared life together and love. It is definitely worth the wait for our blessings in life. Congratulations are in order for you and your family too. I truly appreciate your comment and for sharing the parallels between our family stories. Enjoy the weekend.

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  3. balroop2013 says:

    Lovely story! Wishing you many many years of togetherness and happiness Mary Ann. You both make a handsome couple.

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  4. Lovely, Mary Ann… Two beautiful people enjoying life together!

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    • Very much appreciated. We do have our moments! Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, lovely lady. We turned cold and with light snow overnight after a spring-like day yesterday. Mother Nature’s struggle! I imagine Maine is similar today. Enjoy the weekend.

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    • Thank you, Anne. Is your young chef there still cooking for you? It’s always fun to have such meals. Enjoy the weekend.

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      • Nathaniel, our chef, is back in school. We may know soon where he’ll be for the summer. He liked one summer job offer, but he would have to pay room and board. There wouldn’t be much left over after that. Of course, we’d be happy to have him here.

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      • Haha. I know you would love to have Nathaniel there. Wonder if he and a friend could share a place if it is elsewhere? Good luck to him.


      • Sharing is a good idea. I’m sure he would be happy to do that.

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      • Young people tend to figure out a way to cut costs by sharing a space even though they may not be on the same page for who does the duties and when. Does Nathaniel prefer a certain food to prepare or he just does it all for now? Some like just desserts. I personally would love main courses and salads.


      • Nathaniel does all our grilling when he is here, and he’ll do main dishes. His heart is in preparing breads and labor-intensive desserts. He’d like to own a bakery some day.

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      • How interesting that is. I wish US bakeries knew how to replicate the great German breads, hard (exterior) rolls and baguettes like in France. I really have nothing positive to say about our bread which I term “air” bread or Luftbrot because you can make a tiny ball out of it. It may be a combination of ingredients and ovens. End of my rant. Good for Nathaniel. I know you must be proud of him.

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  5. Clare Pooley says:

    Wonderful! Such a tender but also realistic story of your relationship with your husband, Mary Ann.

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  6. Emily says:

    I love this blog post and photos wonderful story! Thankful for everything happening the way it did! ❤️

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    • Your kind comment is much appreciated, Emily. We are grateful for our marriage and two beautiful successful children who today are young adults. May you also find happiness in life. Thank you for the comment. Enjoy the weekend. ^__^


  7. Annika Perry says:

    Mary Ann, this is beautiful! Written from the heart and full of touching detail as you paint your early life to the lovely couple today. How true that ‘Time teaches us perspective’ and I totally understand when you write that ‘ we have shaped each other’s values,/ attitudes and tastes’ Just as it should be! A ultimate love poem to love, courtship, marriage and life itself! You both look great together and wishing you many many more years of such close, happy and fulfilling life. xx

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    • Thank you so much for a kind and insightful comment as only you can write, Annika. You “get” my intent. I rather think it is the ultimate love poem too and can only hope we have many more years of weaving our enchanting poetry together. Our life together has been fulfilling and happy. We have been blessed by two wonderful angels! Enjoy the weekend.

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  8. ilonapulianauskaite says:

    Lovely story, have a great and productive week🌸

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  9. What a lovely post Mary Ann. It sounds like you guys were meant to be together. I loved seeing your photographs.

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  10. Suvi says:

    What a lovely story, I enjoyed reading it and looking at the photos ❤

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